Under His Wings: December 2009

We've all heard of the yearly tradition of making a New Year's Resolution. There are so many things we should be doing, places we should be going, and habits we need to quit. Whether it's the common resolve of losing weight, quitting smoking, helping or volunteering for the needy, or going back to school, we all have great ideas about where we should be.

So, where should you be? What should you be doing? Your greatest longing or guilt driven goal tells you a lot about yourself. However, recent studies have shown that the act of making a New Year's Resolution can actually be counterproductive to your health. Even though you are vowing to change one or more things about yourself over the next year, the act of holding an unrealistic or realistic expectation could cause a backlash.

BBC (2009) has reported, "...resolutions which focus on issues such as the need to lose weight or job worries create a negative self-image. And if the plans fail to materialize, that could trigger feelings of failure and inadequacy, the charity said. Mind chief executive Paul Farmer said focusing on problems or insecurities can lead to feelings of hopelessness, low self-esteem and even mild depression. We chastise ourselves for our perceived shortcomings and set unrealistic goals to change our behavior, so it's not surprising that when we fail to keep resolutions, we end up feeling worse than when we started."

What is the difference between a RESOLUTION and a GOAL?

1. A resolution focuses on a set standard over your life (as seen taking part on New Year's Day). Resolutions are a promise to one's self for self-improvement. Generally, resolutions are only one dimensional consisting of a simple end result resolution. An accountability partner can be essential in the resolution process, however motivation can decrease for both involved unless you set a goal. Which leads us to....

2. A goal is more centered on realistic steps towards a positive direction (whether it be finding a job, losing weight, becoming more compassionate). Goals focus more on baby steps, and analyzing possible obstacles. Don't forget to grab an accountability partner! If you slip up on your journey, your accountability partner can help whip you back into shape and provide encouragement.

BBC suggests "...instead of making a New Year's resolution, think positively about the year to come and what you can achieve." Instead of easily broken resolutions in 2010, BBC suggests:

Being active - exercise releases endorphins and even a gentle stroll is beneficial for mental well-being.
Going green - evidence has shown that connecting with nature can boost moods.
Learn something new - it will keep minds stimulated and give confidence.
Give back to the community - it can be just as rewarding for you as those you choose to help."

Ultimately, I would suggest that making a resolution or a goal should only happen when you are good and ready to start the process instead of when everyone else tells you to. If you are involved in a dangerous habit or an unhealthy situation, perhaps the advice of others will help motivate and encourage you to change your ways. Let the New Year's be a tradition of renewal, processing, and hope for the future. You are never stuck!

Source:

British Broadcasting Company. (2009). Resolutions Are Bad For Your Health. Retrieved online December 28, 2009 from http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/7806776.stm.